Two years in the past, outstanding Hollywood therapist Amie Harwick was discovered fatally injured beneath her bed room balcony simply hours after Valentine's Day -- a former boyfriend has been charged together with her demise. In his first intensive TV interview, Drew Carey, host of CBS' "The Value Is Proper" and Harwick's onetime fiancé, provides "48 Hours" correspondent Erin Moriarty a uncooked, sincere account of surprising love and insufferable loss.
Within the early morning hours of February 15, 2020, police discovered Amie Harwick, a high-profile household therapist, clinging to life beneath the balcony outdoors her house.
As Amie was rushed to the hospital, investigators instantly questioned her traumatized roommate who had referred to as 911. They got down to interview neighbors and search for surveillance digital camera video - something to elucidate what had occurred to her.
Hours earlier, Amie's Valentine's Day had began peacefully with a dawn hike together with her pal, Cleopatra Slough.
Cleopatra Slough: So, I obtained to her home ... She invited me in as a result of she nonetheless hadn't gotten prepared but. ... We went as much as her bed room, which was very lovely. It had this good balcony, all this pure mild. ...And he or she was frantically preparing and on the final minute, she grabbed this little crimson cardigan sweater and stated," it is Valentine's Day, I'm simply going to throw this on."
Amie acted as a neighborhood tour information as they climbed the winding Hollywood Hills streets.
Cleopatra Slough: She was mentioning all these completely different landmarks she appreciated, telling me completely different historical past in regards to the neighborhood.
They stopped for breakfast on the Beachwood Café.
Cleopatra Slough: She talked lots about how completely satisfied she was. How ... she felt actually completed and pleased with the place she was in life and really a lot, like, at peace ...
Erin Moriarty: Did she appear frightened about something that day?
Cleopatra Slough: No.
Erin Moriarty: Did she speak about what her plans have been that evening?
Cleopatra Slough: Sure. ... They have been all going to a burlesque present. And he or she was actually excited to dress up and go to that.
Erin Moriarty: What was she carrying that evening?
Miss Tosh: She was carrying her rosary necklace, her leather-based jacket, her purse and her boots and a velvet gown.
The necklace would later change into a key piece of proof.
Amie's pal, generally known as Miss Tosh, says the burlesque present began round 7 p.m.
Miss Tosh: They introduced just a little Kodak digital camera and taking all these movie pictures collectively ... And I may see them even once I was on stage simply, like, cheering and standing. One of the best time.
Across the time that Amie and her mates have been taking footage on the present, Amie's roommate Michael Herman - asleep in his room on the primary flooring - would later inform authorities he thought he heard the sound of a smashing plate. He thought it was Amie, a flooring above, and drifted again to sleep. Investigators now imagine it was an intruder breaking the glass of the French door to her house.
Erin Moriarty [looking at photo]: On this second, everyone, you recognize, appears to be like completely satisfied.
Miss Tosh: We're all on a excessive of thrill of celebrating the present ... we have been simply having a lot enjoyable.
Amie, nonetheless on the Globe Theater, caught up with Miss Tosh within the foyer after the present round 9 p.m. Miss Tosh requested her to come back to the after occasion.
Miss Tosh: And he or she's like, "no, I am simply going to have tea with my mates" ... and that was my final second together with her was simply, you recognize," I like you. I am going to see you once more quickly."
Amie and her mates left the Globe Theatre and so they ended up on the Nomad till 12:18 a.m.
At round 1 a.m., Amie pulled into her driveway, and he or she texted her pal Sara Rollins to ship footage from the Nomad: "Ship me pics on the inexperienced sofa!" The time is 1:02 a.m.
Moments later, police imagine she climbed the steps to her third-floor bed room and was viciously attacked. Police theorize that Amie's assailant had been mendacity in watch for 4 hours.
Amie's roommate was jolted out of sleep by her screams. He later testified that he heard the sound of our bodies falling to the ground and extra screams that appeared muffled, as if somebody had put a hand over her mouth.
Unable to search out his cellphone, Amie's roommate first simply tries yelling to scare the assailant away. When he runs for assist, he will get trapped contained in the courtyard, and has to scale a tall steel fence, slicing himself, however he nonetheless makes it over to the neighbor, knocking repeatedly, and no person involves the door.
It was now 1:08 a.m., Amie's roommate is frantic. He then runs throughout the road and once more nobody solutions the door. Then, he sees somebody strolling up the road who occurs to have a cellphone. They name for assist. It's now 1:14 a.m.
That is when police discovered Amie mendacity 20 ft under her bed room balcony. She was struggling to breathe.
Police famous that Amie had extreme accidents and deep marks on her neck - indicators that she had been strangled earlier than she fell from the balcony.
At 2:05 a.m., Sara Rollins, who had no thought Amie was clinging to life, texted that picture of her on the inexperienced sofa. However, by then, Amie was on her technique to Cedar Sinai Medical Middle. She died at 3:26 a.m.
Inside her house investigators found proof of a violent wrestle. There was blood on a bed room door. There was additionally a path of these rosary beads that she'd been carrying earlier that evening that went from her TV room, by way of her bed room and onto the balcony. And that is the place they recovered a syringe stuffed with liquid.
Contemplating Amie didn't smoke, drink or do medication, the syringe appeared misplaced. Was it left by Amie's attacker? And why?
LOVE AND LOSS
As daybreak broke over Los Angeles on the morning after Valentine's Day in 2020, hearts started breaking.
Robert Coshland: It is just like the solar was ripped from the sky.
Amie Harwick's shut mates Cleopatra Slough, Grace Stanley and Robert Coshland, have been listening to the information that the 38-year-old lady they'd beloved and leaned on was gone.
Cleopatra Slough (cries): I did not imagine it.
Grace Stanley (cries): She's not there anymore.
Robert Coshland: The police referred to as me...and stated, "Hey are you able to come all the way down to the Hollywood station."
Phrase shortly reached her onetime fiancé, too: Drew Carey, comic and host of "The Value is Proper" on CBS. He launched Amie to the world on the Valentine's Day version of the present in 2018, simply two years earlier than her demise.
Drew Carey: You need an intimate relationship the place you'll be able to divulge heart's contents to any individual fully ... and he or she was that for me.
Carey is giving his first intensive tv interview about Amie Harwick: A uncooked, sincere account of surprising love and insufferable loss.
Erin Moriarty: How'd you meet her?
Drew Carey: I ... met her at - there's this producer that will throw these like, wonderful huge Hollywood events.
It was 2017. He says he noticed stars all around the room that evening, however particularly when he noticed Amie Harwick, who was moonlighting as a bartender.
Drew Carey: Our first date we went to Disneyland. ... And ... I used to be, like, so amazed by her ... I used to be telling individuals at work. ... "Wow, I met this nice woman. Her title's Amie."
Like Drew, Amie Harwick had grown up in center America. In her case, a small Pennsylvania city.
AMIE HARWICK [modeling agency video]: It was at all times only a problem to determine the place I belonged ... And it took a very very long time for me to determine who I used to be as an individual.
She had been adopted and had, at one level, briefly been in foster care. As a teen, she was drawn to an offbeat crowd.
Sharon Little: We might go to the toilet and do our make-up collectively and skip class.
The women' room wasn't simply the place Sharon Little and Amie Harwick went to goof off; it is the place they first met. At some point in tenth grade, Sharon says she was sobbing after listening to an in depth pal had died, when somebody she did not know provided her a hug.
Sharon Little (crying): She noticed me crying and simply held me.
Each craving understanding, Sharon says they appeared to grasp one another instinctively.
Sharon Little: I felt she knew precisely what I used to be feeling.
In 2001, Amie settled in LA, planning to get a psychology diploma, however she wanted cash.
Drew Carey: She labored her approach by way of faculty ... she labored, like, bartending, go-go dancing.
She obtained gigs at nightclubs and events round city.
Sharon Little: She was blooming. She was consuming hearth ...
Drew Carey: She had a fireplace act that she would do. And like actually hustled.
Amie's hustle, smarts and keenness for private development finally paid off.
Armed with a grasp's diploma in scientific psychology and finally a Ph.D. in human sexuality, she opened a non-public apply and labored with shoppers who have been typically shunned.
AMIE HARWICK ("Good Morning La La Land"): I work with intercourse employees or those who is perhaps beforehand intercourse employees ...
Amie introduced her distinctive mixture of compassion and charisma to a YouTube viewers, too.
AMIE HARWICK (YouTube): Hey, that is Dr. Amie Harwick ...
AMIE HARWICK (YouTube): You talk what you are seeking to do ... what your boundaries are ...
A part of what made her so fascinating, say mates, have been her personal colourful pursuits.
Grace Stanley: Taxidermy and issues like that.
However whereas Amie appeared to have a morbid fascination with mortality ...
Robert Coshland: She was obsessive about demise ... and actually, at one level she had purchased her personal coffin.
... she additionally had a zest for all times and residing.
Grace Stanley: She did every little thing ... and I do not know the place she obtained the power from.
Drew Carey: I fell so arduous for her.
Erin Moriarty: You even stated that you simply have been fortunate sufficient to have that love of a lifetime, what did you imply by that?
Drew Carey: It was. It ... felt to me like lastly, here is like every little thing I ever needed.
He says Amie provided what any particular person would need: unconditional love.
Drew Carey: I've loads of physique points about the best way I look, and- however I'd, like, take my shirt off round her and never care, and he or she would love me. ... like, she did not care. She simply at all times thought I used to be attractive and scorching.
They obtained engaged in 2017.
Drew Carey: We had a good time collectively ... we'd be, you recognize, within the kitchen and simply begin dancing.
However there have been severe issues, too.
Drew Carey: There could be an article like, "Oh, Drew Carey and Amie Harwick at a factor."
The couple's movie star outings typically introduced undesirable consideration to Amie.
Drew Carey: After which the following day, two days later, there'd be one thing.
One thing would virtually at all times seem on-line: adverse, nameless feedback on web sites that reviewed medical doctors, he says. And Amie feared her status as a therapist could be ruined. She was satisfied they have been written by a jealous ex-boyfriend. His title: Gareth Pursehouse.
Drew Carey: And he or she's like ... "I want you were not well-known!"
Erin Moriarty: If this was this nice love, and also you guys so meshed, what occurred?
Drew Carey: Properly, you recognize, we had some issues, and - I do not wanna get into it.
However Carey informed "48 Hours" they tried arduous to make it work.
Drew Carey: We went to remedy as a lot as we may and, you recognize, lastly simply needed to name it a day. ... And it was actually upsetting for each of us.
Associates say the breakup was amicable and the couple finally fell out of contact. Carey, by then in a brand new relationship, says he was thrilled when, on the evening earlier than Valentine's Day in 2020, Amie all of the sudden reached out with a textual content.
Drew Carey (studying textual content): "I'd like to get along with you and speak." And I stated, "Yeah, I'd love to try this. I like you."
Erin Moriarty: Are you unhappy you by no means obtained that probability?
Drew Carey: I by no means obtained it.
Every of Amie's mates dealt with her demise differently, however when requested who they thought would damage her, one title got here to thoughts.
Grace Stanley: My pal is terrified of 1 particular person.
Robert Coshland: It is Gareth.
Erin Moriarty: She thought he was harmful.
Grace Stanley: She did ... she knew what he was able to.
ACCUSATIONS OF ASSAULT
Robert Coshland went all the way down to the Hollywood police station and informed investigators what he knew about Gareth Pursehouse, an ex-boyfriend Amie had dated years earlier than. He was a software program engineer, wannabe comic and photographer.
Robert Coshland: They requested ... Who I assumed may need executed this and ... did she have any enemies? ... "this ex of hers, Gareth ... if anybody ... it might be this man."
Coshland additionally informed them that Amie stated Pursehouse had assaulted her on a couple of event.
"48 Hours" tracked down quite a few police studies and two restraining orders that Amie obtained towards Pursehouse.
Erin Moriarty [reading]: So, that is what she wrote in April 2011:
"Gareth Pursehouse pressured me to the bottom, coated my mouth to stop my yelling, kicked me.
In mid-Might, there have been a number of arguments by which Gareth Pursehouse ... choked me, suffocated me, pushed me towards partitions, kicked me, dropped me to the bottom with pressured pressure, restrained me, slammed my head into the bottom, and punched me with a closed fist."
Robert Coshland: They'd get in ... yelling fights. And one time she threw a pillow at him. And he hit her and bashed her head towards the ground.
Robert Coshland: After which instantly he would make up and be all like," I am actually sorry" and "I like you" and all this type of stuff.
However it was a really completely different relationship when the couple first began relationship, as Grace Stanley remembers.
Stanley says Amie launched her to Pursehouse again in 2008 at a photograph shoot for Bench Hotter buying and selling playing cards. Again then, Amy was a mannequin going by the title Amie Nicole.
Grace Stanley: It was very apparent once I met him that he was taken by her. ... at all times taking footage of her.
Grace Stanley: I truthfully assume she was in search of the great man, the secure man, the man who wasn't going to interrupt her coronary heart or cheat on her. ... when there's any individual who's that into you, you do not assume that they will damage you.
Rudy Torres: He was - he was loud ... charming. Slightly goofy.
Pursehouse posted movies on social media.
Stanley says there was no signal of a relationship in hassle to start with, however one thing now strikes her as unusual.
Grace Stanley: I by no means noticed her and him collectively whereas they have been relationship ... and I form of surprise if he was form of maintaining her away from her mates.
Finally, Amie may now not cover the indicators of abuse. Associates say she began documenting her accidents.
Erin Moriarty: He was hurting her. Does that match the Amie you recognize? To remain in a nasty scenario like that?
Robert Coshland: Truly, sure, it does ... she actually would wanna make relationships work ... even when they weren't working for her. ... She didn't wish to lose in any respect. So, I feel a relationship breaking apart ... would really feel like a loss ... and he or she was very a lot about sustaining issues that she had, even when they weren't good.
Grace Stanley: I simply keep in mind doing the pal factor ... "depart him, depart him. Like, that is not a relationship you need to keep in."
Erin Moriarty: And the way did she react to saying get out of that relationship?
Grace Stanley: She completely agreed.
Amie lastly ended their relationship in 2012.
Rudy Torres: Gareth did not take that very nicely in any respect. He would begin to get obsessive.
Rudy Torres: He at all times needed to know the place she was at ... he used to need me to be his go-between, which, I didn't wanna do. He'd at all times ask me to ship her ... pictures, ship her hyperlinks to sappy love songs. ... and he would not take no for a solution.
Rudy Torres: And he simply form of blew up and stated ... "it's a must to choose, it is both me or her." ... and I went together with her and after that he minimize me off.
AMIE HARWICK (YouTube): The video at present is on learn how to survive the breakup.
Amie was decided to maneuver on from Pursehouse. Not solely did she survive, she thrived. However practically 4 years after the breakup, somebody broke into her house.
Robert Coshland: She referred to as me she's like I feel he broke into my home and stole my picture albums and my pc ... It had been wiped.
Robert Coshland: She believed it was him, she could not show it, she did not have cameras.
Grace Stanley: She felt as if possibly he was watching one way or the other ... she felt like he may possibly have bugged her issues.
Amie was satisfied Pursehouse was behind a few of the insulting and derogatory on-line feedback she had been getting for years. Gareth had additionally despatched messages to her mates designed to sabotage her friendships.
Grace Stanley: It appeared ridiculous. ... Certainly, he is moved on by now.
However then, on January 16, 2020, they crossed paths for the primary time in eight years. The outstanding intercourse therapist obtained a last-minute invite to the annual XBIZ awards, an grownup movie business gala.
That is the place she noticed Pursehouse working the occasion. She tried to remain calm, however she later informed Robert Coshland when Gareth noticed her, he went ballistic.
Robert Coshland: And he was yelling in her face saying, "You have ruined my life." And reciting textual content messages she had despatched to him in 2012. And like, you recognize, created a large scene.
Robert Coshland: There's like 100 individuals on this room and he is screaming. He's working the occasion. He is a giant man and he is screaming at her, sobbing ... falls to the bottom in a fetal place wailing.
After the present, Amie spent 45 minutes talking privately with Pursehouse, away from everybody, however nonetheless inside view of safety guards.
Robert Coshland: She informed me she went into therapist mode ... and inform him, like ... he must, like, get on along with his life ... however in a non-confrontational, as very best approach. ... she felt like she had talked him down.
Robert Coshland: However ... she was unnerved by the entire thing ... After that, she was like, "I need to share my cellphone location with you." ... "If something ever occurs to me ... it is him."
Grace Stanley: She needed to up the safety in her home. She needed pepper spray. She was taking the steps of any individual who was scared.
Two weeks after the run-in with Gareth, Amie referred to as her mother and father, with an surprising request.
Robert Coshland: She ... informed them that, if I die, I need to have an open casket funeral and I need an elaborate gravestone and ... like, very express needs.
Then, only a day earlier than Valentine's Day 2020, there was that textual content from Amie reaching out to Drew Carey.
Drew Carey: I used to be actually completely satisfied ... I used to be like, "Oh, it would be nice to see her once more."
However Carey would by no means hear from Amie once more. Robert Coshland would ship the heartbreaking information.
Drew Carey: And he goes, "Hey - Amie was murdered." And - I simply began like, "What?" And I - and I simply began crying ... And I simply - I could not even rise up. And - I - you recognize, I did not assume that was potential.
Information of Amie's demise exploded throughout the nation.
And inside hours, detectives tracked down Gareth Pursehouse at his house, and charged him together with her homicide. Now, prosecutors got down to construct their case towards him.
Rhonda Saunders: It will be a combat.
A LOOK AT THE EVIDENCE
In September 2021, a year-and-a-half after his arrest, Gareth Pursehouse appeared on the Los Angeles Superior Court docket for a preliminary listening to. Rudy Torres, as soon as Pursehouse's good pal, needed to be there - for Amie.
Rudy Torres: You need to know what these final moments have been like for her. And also you simply must be there as a result of somebody needs to be in that room for her.
Cameras weren't allowed contained in the listening to itself, the place a decide would decide if there was sufficient proof to attempt Pursehouse for the homicide of Amie Harwick.
Rhonda Saunders: You understand, there is not any such factor as a slam dunk case, ever.
Rhonda Saunders was a deputy district lawyer in LA for 33 years. She is just not concerned on this case however reviewed courtroom information at "48 Hours" request. On the listening to, prosecutors mentioned Amie's post-mortem, which paperwork obvious defensive wounds on her arms and fingers. There was additionally a sample of damaged blood vessels round Amie's eyes referred to as petechiae, which might be proof of strangulation.
Rhonda Saunders: There not solely have been the petechiae, however there have been bruises on her neck.
However was Gareth Pursehouse the intruder on the evening of February 14, 2020? Prosecutors introduced proof of DNA recovered from the French door and the lounge flooring, which they stated was a match to Pursehouse.
Rudy Torres: The phrase of the day was septillion. ... That is the one with 24 zeroes. ... Many of the stuff went over my head, however I can keep in mind septillion.
Torres is right - investigators stated the prospect that the DNA belonged to anybody aside from Pursehouse was lower than one in a single septillion. And maybe extra disturbing, they are saying Pursehouse's DNA was on Amie's fingernails. Torres says he is disturbed by the thought of Amie's final moments alive -the roughly 6 minutes after she despatched her final textual content and earlier than her roommate knocked on the neighbor's door for assist.
Rudy Torres: Six minutes. Her final moments on earth have been six minutes. And that is most likely essentially the most scary a part of all this, that she - does not sound like a very long time, however she fought for six minutes.
On the listening to, the protection questioned whether or not that DNA was collected and examined appropriately, and so they questioned whether or not Pursehouse was there in any respect. However a neighbor's house safety video from the evening of Valentine's Day - performed in courtroom - reveals an intruder that Torres believes is Pursehouse.
Rudy Torres: He places his hand over the digital camera so it does not see him ... however you recognize any individual for that lengthy it is like seeing him from a distance. It seemed like him.
Gareth Pursehouse pleaded not responsible, and his protection attorneys argue that not one of the proof collected by the state proves homicide. They are saying even when that intruder was Pursehouse - and so they do not agree it was - he may have gone there simply to speak to Amie, and her fall off the balcony may have been an accident.
Rudy Torres: That is ridiculous. ... He is tall. And he or she's tiny. ... She's unmatched in any approach you'll be able to quantify.
Robert Coshland: He might have needed to say some issues to her, however I feel he went there to kill her.
Then there's that syringe that police say they discovered on Amie's balcony. Lab exams later revealed that it contained nicotine, which generally is a deadly poison. Robert Coshland believes that syringe may solely have been there for one motive.
Robert Coshland: That simply actually, I feel, confirmed that he had intent - murderous intent, as a result of there is not any benign motive to have a syringe of nicotine, ever.
Though very uncommon, there have been homicide circumstances involving deadly doses of nicotine - notably one which "48 Hours" coated: the case of Paul Curry who was discovered responsible of the 1994 poisoning of his spouse Linda with the toxin.
Dr. Neal Benowitz: When you take it orally by mouth or by pores and skin, then it takes for much longer as a result of absorption takes some time ... However when you have it intravenously, then you'll be able to die inside minutes.
Dr. Neal Benowitz, a number one skilled on nicotine, who wrote a report in regards to the Harwick case, spoke to "48 Hours" in 2014 about how somebody may make a excessive focus answer of the drug.
Dr. Neal Benowitz (holding up a vial): This is able to be a concentrated nicotine answer that might kill any individual.
Police say they later discovered a syringe in Pursehouse's house just like the one stuffed with nicotine. Prosecutors argued that the presence of that poison at Amie's house is proof of Pursehouse's murderous intentions.
Rhonda Saunders: The prosecutor has to indicate that intent to hurt her, to kill her. Why else would there be a syringe with that toxin in it?
On the listening to, Amie's mates testified about her worry of Pursehouse, and the measures she had taken-including the house safety system, shopping for pepper spray, and permitting Robert Coshland to trace her cellphone. After her demise, Robert situated Amie's e mail password, and says he discovered what often is the most haunting proof towards Pursehouse, written by Amie herself.
Erin Moriarty: You discovered one thing in her Gmail.
Robert Coshland: Sure.
Erin Moriarty: That turned essential, did not it?
Robert Coshland: Yeah.
Amie used her e mail to doc her scary encounter with Pursehouse on the XBIZ awards present. She wrote:
"He began screaming ... you should not be right here, why are you right here ... He was sobbing. ... He was distorting his face up and shaking violently ..."
Erin Moriarty: What does that say to you - that form of response with simply working into a lady that he has not had contact with for years?
Kris Mohandie: This was terrifying to her and ... She ought to have been terrified, as a result of that is not regular.
Forensic psychologist Kris Mohandie.
Kris Mohandie: This e mail is a voice, you recognize, of what Amie Harwick was experiencing.
In it she additionally writes, "It terrifies me that he is been obsessive about me for 9 years ... He is malicious, very smart, and targeted on harming me."
Rhonda Saunders: What that e mail reveals is that there isn't any approach after writing that even to herself, that she would have invited him over, that she would have had something to do with him, that she was afraid of him.
The query now's for the decide to resolve. Is there sufficient proof to take Gareth Pursehouse to trial? Amie's mates don't have any doubts.
Erin Moriarty: Do you assume she fell off the balcony?
Cleopatra Slough: No.
Robert Coshland: No. ... under no circumstances.
Robert Coshland: She actually stated, "if something ever occurs to me, it is Gareth." She informed these precise phrases to me.
WANTING BETTER FOR AMIE
Grace Stanley: You understand, she'd had different relationships that hadn't ended nicely. However they by no means got here up.
Amie's shut pal Grace Stanley additionally testified on the Gareth Pursehouse hearing-about texts she had from Amie relaying her fears about him.
Grace Stanley: She by no means actually appreciated to textual content a lot about Gareth. She definitely did not like to make use of his title.
Erin Moriarty: Why? Did she assume he may see it?
Grace Stanley: She felt as if possibly he was watching one way or the other. She'd at all times felt that.
After six days of proof and arguments, the decide dominated there was greater than sufficient to bind Pursehouse over for trial for the homicide of Amie Harwick.
Erin Moriarty: Will you go to the trial?
Rudy Torres: Sure. ... There is a small group of us and we have agreed that, it doesn't matter what, there'll at all times be any individual in that room for her.
Musician and pal Sharon Little intends to be there too.
Sharon Little: I need the decide to see how essential she was. And, you recognize, and I needed to be there for her.
Psychologist Kris Mohandie thinks the state's case towards Pursehouse, if true, displays a deep obsession with Amie, first documented in these long-ago courtroom information that was reignited after that probability encounter on the crimson carpet.
Kris Mohandie: There might have been a lull by way of these years, however at that awards occasion it obtained the pursuit began over again.
Pursehouse has not been charged with stalking and has pleaded not responsible to Amie's homicide. However Kris Mohandie believes that if the state's allegations are true, his alleged crime would match the sample of what he calls obsessional pursuit. He additionally says it is probably that Amie was responding to Gareth with sympathy and never security for herself as her first concern.
Erin Moriarty: In hindsight, was it a mistake for her to attempt to calm him down, defuse the scenario?
Kris Mohandie: I am undecided I'd name it a mistake. I'd name her resolution to speak with him twice that night to attempt to calm him, to be her humanity.
Nevertheless, the most secure plan of action for stalking victims, Mohandie says, is never to have interaction their stalker in the event that they might help it. Properly-meant human kindness might be twisted by stalkers' delusions and gasoline their rage.
Kris Mohandie: And that rage, they do not heal from it. They - it turns into this residing factor that they nurture and feed. And what you see in on this case, if true, is a nine-year window of that.
Amie's mates say she was by no means going to let her worry of Pursehouse shut down her life.
Robert Coshland: You'll be able to't reside your life in worry. ... When you wanna reside in worry, you are giving that particular person management over you. And that is not who she was. She was her personal particular person and he or she was gonna management her personal future and he or she would by no means give him that energy. Ever.
Erin Moriarty: That is - it is virtually two years. The ache has not gone away, has it?
Robert Coshland: No. (Cleopatra Slough, sitting beside Coshland, shakes her head, "no.") I do not assume it ever will.
Erin Moriarty: Is Valentine's Day arduous for you?
Drew Carey: Horrible. Yeah (emotional) ... Yeah. Valentine's Day sucks now. That is not a superb day to recollect.
Erin Moriarty: Do you could have regrets?
Rudy Torres: Yeah. I feel all of us do. You understand, you at all times assume, I may have executed extra, I ought to have executed extra, I ought to have been there, I ought to have listened extra.
However one factor Rudy Torres is obvious on is what he can do now. He calls on different males to affix him.
Rudy Torres: Plenty of this can be a downside as a result of males want to carry different males accountable.
Drew Carey says he hopes Amie's demise and the eye it has obtained will assist convey extra consciousness to intimate accomplice violence and the very actual risks of stalking.
Drew Carey: You'll be able to't be an individual on this nation and never know a lady who hasn't been a sufferer of home violence. You simply cannot. ... And it is actually an issue that not sufficient individuals acknowledge.
Erin Moriarty: What is going to you miss about her essentially the most? Is there one factor? That you just simply assume...?
Robert Coshland: Her. Simply her. Her, you recognize, sittin' subsequent to me. You understand, I hear her voice in my head daily.
Sharon Little: Each time I really feel depressed, and I do not really feel like getting up within the morning and I - I simply say, "She will be able to't stand up. You have gotta do it for - you've got gotta stand up for her."
Amie's mother and father shared a press release:
"As we strategy the two yr anniversary of Amie's demise, we stay grateful for the unwavering assist of our prolonged household and mates. Lots of Amie's shut mates talk with us recurrently, attend courtroom hearings, and replace us on these proceedings. We're very grateful.
Our hope is that 2022 will convey justice for Amie and give attention to her life, her work, and her accomplishments."
Drew Carey: She cared a lot about serving to individuals. That was her life's objective. She simply needed to assist individuals. Particularly girls.
Erin Moriarty: You actually miss her, do not you?
Rudy Torres: It is like, I could have misplaced a pal and loads of us misplaced a pal. However she was en route to simply assist so many individuals ... In her chosen area, she helped so many ladies, and he or she would've helped so many extra. ... it is extra than simply dropping a pal.
When you or a beloved one are a sufferer of home violence, the Nationwide Home Violence Hotline provides free, confidential assist 24/7 at 1-800-799-7233.
Amie's mates are planning to construct a memorial to honor her and victims of home violence.
Produced by Sarah Prior, Murray Weiss and Josh Yager. Greg Fisher and Michelle Fanucci are the event producers. Gregory F. McLaughlin, Grayce Arlotta-Berner, George Baluzy, Michael Baluzy and Greg Kaplan are the editors. Kathryne Teurfs and Shaheen Tokhi are the sphere producers. Anthony Batson is the senior producer. Nancy Kramer is the chief story editor. Judy Tygard is the chief producer.